If you want to stay relevant in this age of great resets, it does mean doing some ‘mental resets’ first. Here are 3 common mistakes to avoid when trying to successfully shift from an old world view to a new one.
01:44 – The biggest mistake people make and how to shift it
05:01 – How to contribute your gifts in the coming new era
14:29 – How to drop all the beliefs and roles that no longer serve
18:50 – Examples of people who brought their dreams into reality
Explore Your Passion worksheet
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This is episode 93 – THE GREAT “MENTAL RESET”. If you want to stay relevant in this age of great resets, it does mean doing some ‘mental resets’ first. Here are 3 common mistakes to avoid when trying to successfully shift from an old world view to a new one. Hi, I’m Carla Rieger and this is the MindStory Speaker podcast.
In the news we are hearing about the great reset on many levels, not just financial but healthcare, social, political structures of the world are all changing. There seems to be many agendas that play, some of them seem good, some of them seem not so good depending on your values and your perspective. However, there is clearly massive change going on that will require what we, at MindStory Academy call a Mental Reset. This is really a form of opening the mind which then opens the emotions, the body and spirit for great transformation. We often have to start at the mind, because the mind is often what blocks successful change.
Here are a few mistakes that can stop you from doing a successful mental reset, so that upi can thrive in the this new kind of world that is emerging. I’ve made all these mistakes, and so have many of my clients. So, if you recognize yourself here, no worries. They are common human behaviours. If you don’t make these mistakes, then that’s a good sign you’re on your way to moving forward quickly and successfully.
The biggest mistake is TO FOCUS ON WHAT YOU DON’T WANT. Most are clear on what they don’t want, but they aren’t clear on what they want instead. So, for example, many people who lead others, find that people come to them with a problem, and just want to stay stuck on the problem. People’s productivity is down since the lockdowns. And then they go into vast detail about why it’s a problem and why it’s so hard to solve. Now, of course it does help to thoroughly explore the problem to help find a solution, but many people in a leadership role find that when they want to steer the conversation toward solution, people just don’t want to go there. They have more things they need to complain about, and then time runs out and they still haven’t solved the problem. I’ve trained several of my clients to do this habit instead.
When employees or subcontractors would come to them to solve their problem, I suggested they simple ask them “What is the result you want to create? Come back to me when you have the answer to that question.” And once they did that, the person also knew how they were going to get there. I want people to feel more productive, supported and resilient even though we are on lockdown. And all the sudden they were brainstorming like crazy on how that could happen. It’s a strange but powerful phenomenon. If we could see a person’s brain scan we would see they went from the survival brain, to the Neo cortex where their problem-solving abilities reside, just by being asked that question.
So, this one practice has changed business effectiveness dramatically and it also works at home, if you’re spouse or kids come to you with problems etched across their face. You can also do it with yourself to solve your own problems quickly, as we can all find ourselves grumbling about life’s issues, and staying in a negative state instead of a more proactive one.
So that is a business or work environment example, but what about on the world stage. There’s mostly negative news whether it’s mainstream, or alternative news, you don’t hear that many people talking about how we want our lives to look moving forward as a global population. It really helps to find people who are talking about sustainable solutions to the environment, the financial crisis, the health care system, the education system. Everything is being upgraded right now and so this is the time for creative self-starters to see and take action on new solutions, rather than sitting around complaining and waiting until somebody else comes up with a great idea.
To that end, what are you passionate about? What kind of world do you want to live in? Where are your skills, talents, experiences, connections? And maybe your area of passion has nothing to do with your skills, talents or experiences, and that’s okay. Now is a great time in history to make a leap into a whole other area, because we’re all beginners here. If you read the biographies of some of the greatest inventors, you’ll often find they had nothing to do with that area of endeavor most of their life, they just leapt from one area of expertise to another and brought a new perspective to it because they were new to it.
So that brings us to the 2nd mistake, which is to look to stay stuck in terms of what’s possible.
Now is the time to let yourself dream, to think outside the box. Because were moving into an unprecedented time in history, looking to the past for what’s possible is not going to help you moving forward. Unfortunately, many of us were schooled to stop thinking outside the box. But we were that way before schooling, it’s a natural human tendency to blue sky possibilities. So you just need to retrain your mind in that ability. A simple way to do that is to think of something you’ve always dreamed of creating, and then create huge long list of all the ways you could make it happen.
Even if those ideas are silly, impractical, strange, mundane, downright bad. You have to get all those ideas out of the way first until you really start thinking in new ways. It helps to get other people with different perspectives helping you do the brainstorm. A big rule is not to edit any of your ideas until the brainstorming processes over. In other words, no one can say, that idea will never work. That silly, or even roll their eyes. That shuts down creativity. It puts people into the survival brain, worried about other people’s approval, and then we don’t get the great ideas. So it’s a complete ‘blue sky’ of anything and everything that’s possible from a variety of perspectives, on your own or with the group. Then you can reread the list and see what pops out as a possibility.
What if you don’t even know how you want to contribute to the world moving forward? Think of it this way. I’m sure you’ve had times in your life when you said yourself, what if the world look like this? And you let your imagination roam on that. For example, I didn’t like a lot of the stories told in fiction, movies and TV that were about the future. They mostly seemed negative, an Armageddon kind of future where everyone lived in a negative reality. Sure, a hero comes along and saves people, but not before going through hell. I believe that what you focus on grows, and stories are a huge way to program the collective human consciousness for good or for bad. Why not have stories about an amazing future, where people are living in prosperity, getting along, where the earth is cleaned up, where people get to explore careers they’ve always dreamed of having, where relationships are easy to form and maintain, where people’s health is good most of the time? So, I wrote a novel about that. It’s coming out soon, I’ll keep you posted.
I have a colleague who worked in the financial industry and became disheartened by the corruption in his sector of the industry, so has been working as a consultant to help different communities around the world develop different kinds of barter systems.
A client of mine worked in electrical engineering and always was fascinated by free energy devices, so finally started her own business trying to find funding for inventors of free energy devices.
A school teacher friend left the school system and create experiential learning programs for students who didn’t do very well in conventional learning environments.
Another client worked for years in toxic work environments where people were overworked, overstressed, underpaid and where interpersonal politics ground everyone down. She now is an international expert on workplace wellness.
You might be working on something right now that is helping bring in this Renaissance in human evolution that I believe is coming. If not, feel free to check out something I offer for free to people called, the Explore Your Passion worksheet. It’s an effective way to discover how you want to serve. Many people with an existing area of expertise, also do it at times in their life when they feel they have to reinvent. You’ll see the link in the show notes, or you can also just go to mindstoryacademy.com/free, and you’ll see it there as a downloadable worksheet.
This is a fun, creative process to find or further clarify a focus for your vision. It is much easier to build quickly if you focus on a certain solution for certain type of person. Why does everyone tell you to niche or get deeper clarity on who, what, where, when, why? Think about it. A health expert who helps people lose weight is up against the entire market of people trying to help others lose weight. It’s the most crowded market in the world. Someone who coaches women over 50 to lose weight through intermittent fasting, is going to find it much easier to market herself. People want to feel like you’re an expert who can help someone just like them. It’s also much easier to get referrals when you’re that specific. You can join groups where those kind of people hang out.
During the Explore Your Passion process you brainstorm on discovering your passion where you find the sweet spot of your unique qualities, your main skills and what excites you. Then, you explore which communities would most benefit from your expertise, what hurts, what’s changing for those communities, and how that expertise can benefit those specific communities. It’s basically combining all that with what the marketplace is looking for. It’s a complex process if you try to do it in a linear way. This way you brainstorm anything and everything to get past the inner editor, and then you narrow it down to a few specific areas, and one specific community. By the end you create your Expertise Mission Statement. It only takes about 20-30 minutes and has been entirely life-changing for people, so check that out
A 3rd mistake that causes people to not make the great mental reset we may all need to go through soon is an unwillingness to face is the fact that what you counted on, what you thought was true, what felt stable to you is now gone. Here’s a few examples. Had a client who always wanted to be a famous singer-songwriter. He worked his way up, got gigs, got producers, sold songs, but soon found that what he imagined this life would be like, and what it actually was like – two very different things. The whole commercial life of being a musical artist sucked the life force out of him. The corruption, the drugs, the mean spirited competition, the underhanded things that people did. It literally broke his heart.
He had to sit down with the part of himself that had that dream since he was a kid, and face the fact that he was wrong. Or at least the way he was choosing to go after this career, all the hard work, the ways he’d sacrificed, the relationships lost, the hardships he faced all led to nothing that was what he really wanted. That required great vulnerability, humility, going home with his tail between his legs and saying that he just couldn’t hack it in that world, having to face a future where he didn’t know what to do. It’s a very uncomfortable place to be, and if you’ve lived a few decades you’ve probably face something like this in your life. Those dreams he face when you’re young and naïve, and you sacrifice, and you work hard, and you tell everybody what you’re going to do, and then it just doesn’t work out. It can happen with marriages, degrees from university, going on a sailing trip around the world.
Had a colleague who always dreamed about sailing around the world, but when he actually did it was not what he thought. He couldn’t wait to get home. When I was a teenager, I thought it would be great to be a lawyer. My mother had a lawyer friend and suggested I spend the day with him and see what it was like. I also interviewed a few people who were lawyers. After a week of investigation, I decided against it. That saved me a lot of heartache. I’m so glad I got the opportunity to pre-experience it. I’ve since had 2 clients who had to face the very real fact that they’d made a very bad mistake in choosing to be a lawyer, but found it very difficult to let go of the money, reputation, all the sacrifices and face the unknown. One of those clients chose to face the unknown and is now in a very fulfilling career, the other one is still being a lawyer and miserable. Now, if you’re a lawyer, you might love it, but for these two people it really wasn’t the right fit.
So, what roles, structures, relationships, situations do you find yourself in now, that may be were hard-won, involved lots of money, time, sacrifice, struggle, but that really aren’t right moving forward. There is no security in holding onto something that isn’t right for you, the natural laws of entropy will pull it away from you, so you might as well do it yourself. What does that mean? Maybe something like this has happened to you. A client of mine had made it to the top of her company in sales, she was the manager of all the salespeople. She loved being in the company, but came to a time in her life when she really just wanted to go out on her own and start her own company. But she was afraid of change, so subconsciously she started sabotaging her role. She stopped showing up on time, she just did the minimum to get by, she let important contracts fall to the wayside. She was angry at herself for acting like that, and beat herself up daily. One day, her boss brought her into the office and gave her one last chance to get back on track. The weeks that followed things fell apart even more, much to her chagrin. She got fired and went into a tailspin of despair. After year of feeling humiliated and disenfranchised, she decided to dream again and remember that she always wanted to start her own business. As soon she got that underway, she looked back and saw that she had arranged for herself to get fired so that she could be free of it. If you don’t want to go through that level of negativity in the letting go process, you can just decide proactively to take action.
So, if you enjoyed listening to this podcast, and want to get a free copy of the Explore Your Passion worksheet just go to mindstoryacademy.com/free, and you’ll see it there as a downloadable worksheet. It’s an effective way to discover how you want to serve, what role you might want to take on, how to reinvent what you offer. You’ll also see the link in the show notes.
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