Usually when you have a huge vision or goal for yourself, it triggers doubt and disbelief that it can happen. More specifically, it triggers a lack of belief in yourself. In this episode we’ll explore why that happens and how to turn it around.
01:45 – Believing something is possible before it happens is key
05:15 – The importance of listening to doubt rather than pushing it away
09:30 – A 4-Step Process to activate the Alchemy of Possibility
19:15 – Making a ‘Unified Decision’ is what creates results
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This is episode 99 – The Alchemy of Possibility. Usually when you have a huge vision or goal for yourself, it triggers doubt, a lack of belief that it can happen, and more specifically, a lack of belief in your ability to create it. In this episode we’ll explore why that happens and how to turn it around. Hi, I’m Carla Rieger and this is the MindStory Speaker podcast.
Over the years, people have come to me to help them achieve certain goals or big impossible visions not just because I can help them strategically to break it down with them step by step and keep them accountable, but mostly to keep their head in the game. Usually I’m helping them build a business, or their leadership skills, or develop content as an expert. When I first started coaching, I would give them the strategies, the step by step process, the accountability to stay focused, but only about 30% would move forward to manifesting their goals and visions. 70% would not. At first, I thought it was the strategies that I was giving them. In a very small percentage of the cases, maybe that strategy wasn’t the best for them at that time. But I found in most situations I could distill it down to one thing, and one thing alone. They just didn’t believe it was possible.
They started out with an idea, a longing, vision, goal of what they wanted to achieve. I call that being in the archetype of the visionary, whose core script is That’s Totally Possible. On other podcast episodes I’ve talked about how we run our lives according to MindStories, with core scripts and characters I call archetypal characters – all of which provide instruction sets, perspectives, motivations that we live by. For example, most of us can access a Visionary archetypal character. It’s the part that drives us forward with our big goals in life. Its the part that sees beyond preconceived ideas, consciousness bias, to see possibility where others only see impossibility. All the great inventors, creative geniuses, business innovators often access this archetypes. But all archetypes comes with their opposite. The opposing archetype to the Visionary, which I call the Myopic. Their core script is – That’s Impossible. The word literally means someone who can’t see distances that are far away. But it can also figuratively mean having restricted or rigid views, being unreceptive to new ideas, not thinking about how to properly provide for the future, not perceptive about what’s needed in order to move forward.
So, we all have both, and they often duke it out. In fact, usually soon after a person comes up with a great vision for themselves, a clear purpose for moving forward, it actually triggers the opposite: the myopic, pessimistic, small minded archetype that just doesn’t believe it’s possible, and mostly that’s because they don’t believe in themselves. It’s like creating a vision for something it excites you is like a spring flower starting to bud in the soil. It then starts a process where you have to push through the muck, the mud, the soil, the rocks to get into the sunlight. But what usually happens is people have vision, then all their doubts, fears, lack of belief come up, which is all part of the alchemical process of going towards your vision, where you have to have both archetypes going through an alchemical process in order to manifest the goal. But people get thrown off by all these doubts that weren’t there when they didn’t have a vision, when they were staying safe in the comfortable and familiar. Now that they vision, they have to deal with its opposite. That’s when a lot of people give up, go back to the comfortable and familiar, and let the myopic archetype win.
For example, I studied playwriting in university so when I graduated I decided to write a play. It was a kind of a sketch comedy. I had these visions of putting on comedic plays, going on tour, getting standing ovations. So the Visionary within went for it. I wrote it, hired actors, director and producer, got a venue, started promoting it. But the closer we got to opening night, every fear I ever had came up to bite me. The Myopist within needed to have it’s day in court. It’s not to be ready on time, there’s going to be technical issues, it’s going to bomb, I’m going to lose money, my actors will choke up, no one will show up, and mostly…I just don’t believe that I can pull this off. It came on so loud and so strong, partly because I’d been pushing it away the whole time, not listening, not processing it. And it got so big and so huge that I canceled the whole show 4 days before opening night. All that time, money, effort for months and months was all just wasted, because it really hadn’t dealt with the inner Myopist right from the start.
Now, whenever I have what seems like an inspiring vision of something I want to accomplish, I know to invite The Myopist to tea, to have a clear, open and honest conversation. I want to hear from this part right from the get-go. I want to hear that archetypal character out in all its doom, gloom, doubt, pessimism, lack of belief in me, in the project, in life. It’s okay. It’s part of the alchemical process of creating anything. It’s actually part of the creative process. Most people think it’s a block to creativity, a form of sabotage for creativity, but is not. It simply the rocks, soil and mock you have to push up through to create any vision.
So here’s a quick, 4 step process you can do to invite this part of yourself forward, to have a conversation between the Visionary and the Myopist within.
And to make this work it helps to understand the power of decision. So when I work with someone who comes through any of our programs, and they want this alchemy of possibility, to create more in their life, and of course that’s different for all of us. And in that realm of creating something that you previously thought was impossible, there’s a superpower I call making a unified decision. This is as opposed to an unified decision, where you make a decision, then you unmake it. The Visionary makes the decision, then the Myopist unmakes it.
So the inner Myopic is often stealing away life force energy and the superpower of making a unified decision. So the first thing we do together is look at where this sabotaging is going on, helping you see the thinking that’s causing this block, this suffering, and how to discern which thinking is true and untrue. And then the moment you actually see untrue thinking, you start the transformation process, you because you can’t unsee it anymore. For example, sometimes the Myopist part of you won’t outright block everything the visionary wants, but will subtly create problems. Like it will tell you that if you’re going to achieve this vision, you have to get this huge list of tasks done…like…today! And if you don’t there’s this inference that you won’t get there, you will fail, it’s not meant to be.
But when you examine that kind of thinking from this wiser part of the brain, this wholistic, whole brain, detached, neutral, compassionate place you see…well, that doesn’t make much sense. There’s 2 weeks of things to do on my list for today. I’m not supposed to get everything on this list done today. And no, I’m not at risk of not achieving my vision if I don’t get all this done. That’s just silly. What’s true is that I’m supposed to just get done what I can get done today, and then I turn it over to life for tomorrow. There’s this co-creation with life rather than struggling with, or fighting against life. The scarcity of time illusion that gets people in knots of tension, is actually this Myopic part of you at work. It’s a force of entropy or sabotage of challenge, to build your stamina against, like a heavy weight in the gym there to help you build more strength of resolve, better discernment over truth. So once you really see that, every time you experience overwhelm again, you can see what’s untrue quicker and quicker until you just don’t go into overwhelm anymore.
Now, the moment we make a decision to change the bad habit of getting lost in overwhelm or to move towards the vision, we actually create a mental image of it. And the brain starts to operate off of that image. As I’ve talked about on other episodes, there’s been many scientific studies to show how ‘making a decision’ will actually change your brain, you’ll build a series of neural networks that represent the experience that you’re imagining. And it’s actually the willingness to do that, without needing to know the how that reveals the How to you. Because now you start to operate as if it’s already done. And that brain change starts to give you the thoughts, the ideas, the necessary perceptions of your external reality, so you pay attention to the things that you need to notice in order to make that thing happen.
And it activates coincidence in the quantum reality. So decisions are very powerful. And one of the reasons some people manifest goals so much quicker than others is that they actually learn to give themselves permission to make new decisions without needing to know how to get there, which is what activates the power of imagination.
To end with, I’ll just quote a short story that was told in the movie Soul, which is a recently released animated film about a jazz musician who has one singular goal which is to make it as a jazz pianist. He’s a middle school music teacher but wishes he was playing with the top jazz band. Finally he gets an opportunity to play with top jazz band, and he dies just before he’s about to perform. Most of the rest of the movie takes place in the afterlife where he tries to go back into his body so he can fulfill his dream. Spoiler alert here, he does actually get to go back in his body and perform and he gets a standing ovation, everything he always wanted, and afterwards he standing outside with the head of the band and he is wondering why he doesn’t feel better were different. He got what he always wanted, now that he had it, he didn’t feel different. She says to him
I heard this story about a fish. He swims up to an older fish and says, “I’m trying to find this thing they call ‘the ocean.’” “The ocean? the older fish says, “That’s what you’re in right now.” “This?” says the young fish. “This is water. What I want is the ocean!”
I think it’s a good reminder, that our visions and goals, where we think they are taking us, is usually to a place that was always there to begin with. It is just the illusion that we don’t have it, that drives us. So, all these alchemical processes we go through between the inner visionary and the inner myopist or just a game we play. It’s the journey of getting there that’s the most important, the interplay of the dark and the light, the challenges and the opportunities, the wins and the failures, the dreams and the disappointments. It’s all part of one big ocean known as life.
By the way, our next episode is #100. It’s a special episode because I’m going to cover frequently asked questions from previous podcast episodes. So, if you have a question you’d like me to answer simply send it to Carla@MindStoryAcademy.com.
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