How do I write out just the facts of the issue without my interpretation? And why is that important?

When you write out your MindStory at the beginning of the AVARA model process, it’s a chance to get it all down unedited. It’s important that you don’t judge yourself, or edit what you write. Most people mix facts, interpretations, beliefs and feelings together. The AVARA model guides you to break it down into its component parts, so you can then reconstruct your MindStory in a more empowering way.

For example, a MINDSTORY versus FACTS would be “My landlord entered my apartment without my consent, then changed my faucet. Now it doesn’t work with my new water purifier that cost me $2000. He won’t change it back to a faucet that works with my system. He has no respect for me and my situation.”

The same situation listed just as the FACTS would be: “My landlord changed my faucet and now it doesn’t work with my water purification system.”

Can you see how unemotional that second one is? This was important because upon further investigation the landlord did have permission to enter her suite. It turned out that the faucet was an upgrade, since the old one was leaking and causing damage. One adaptor solved her problem, which the landlord willingly provided for her, once she approached him in an “untriggered” state. The AVARA model helped her get there.

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